??? about addressing wedding invitations?

by DIY wedding planner on April 21, 2014

I have a few people on my guest list that are married but I do not know their spouse. I’m assuming the outer envelope would say Ms. Jane Doe. Would the inner envelope say Jane and John or Jane and guest?
Also, what if I do the diy invites and there is only one envelope?

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Blessed April 21, 2014 at 1:33 pm

The outer envelope would say Mr. and Mrs. Doe
The inner envelope does not have to say anything. It can be blank.
If there is only one envelope, then so be it.


aspasia April 21, 2014 at 1:52 pm

You are in luck: the inner envelope correctly says only the formal names (that is, titles and surname) of the guests: “Mr and Mrs Doe”. The outer envelope, everywhere except the United States, is correctly dressed to the female head of house using her legal name and title: Mrs (or Ms) Jane Doe. In the United States it is supposed to be addressed equally to the male and female heads of house: one of “Mr .and Mrs. John Doe” or “Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Doe” or “Mr. John Doe and Ms. Jane Smith” depending on what name the lady actually goes by — and that is her choice, of course, not yours. But, since you do not know the gentleman’s name, you had best follow the British/Canadian/Australian &tc. custom.

If you do not use an inner envelope, the correct form is to use a “write-in line” on the invitation itself. Instead of putting

“Ms Jenny S and Mr John Groom
request the pleasure of your company
at their wedding …”

you would write

“Ms Jenny S and Mr John Groom
request the pleasure of the company of

at their wedding …”

Then you write “Mr and Ms Doe” — exactly what you would have written on the inner envelope — on the write-in line. Nowadays with computer-controlled printing and mail-merge, if you are computer-savvy and planning to print your invitations yourself, you can even have the computer write in the names of the guests so that they are in the same font as the rest of the invitation.


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