How many choices of horderves for wedding cocktail hour?

by DIY wedding planner on May 12, 2012

Ok. I’m a little pissed. As you probably remember I asked a question a couple days ago about ideas for DIY horderves. I recieved some AWESOME answers and was totally pumped! But when I asked my venue if they had a kitchen, they told me that we cannot make our own food, it has to be served by a liscensed caterer!!! Phoofey! The same goes with the alcohol. So much for a few kegs! This is REALLY discouraging because what was SUPPOSED to be a $5,000 budget is turning into $8,000 or $9,000!!!

So, how many choices of horderves (hot and cold) are normally served at a wedding? This is what I was thinking on ordering;

Cheese and crackers platter $1.85pp

Meatballs $2.25pp

Jalepeno Poppers $2.25pp

Deviled eggs $1.25

I would like to order sooo much more but they are so EXPENSIVE!!!! Here is the appetizer menu:

I looked at the party horderves menu and like the chicken wings and BBQ meatballs, but it is a package deal for $10.95pp!!!! (Which is about what the above would cost) That’s how much the dinner is!!!!! I may be able to get those alone though. HELP! I am so frustrated!!!! (Oh it is for approximatley 80 people).
Thanks Peter Pry, but there happens to be two ways to spell the word. I was using the easier one, idiot.
Mom3boys; ooooh, ha ha, you got me! Why don’t I ask a question on how to spell hors d’oeuvres? Funny though, when you type “horderves” in Google it doesn’t say, “Did you mean hors d’oeuvres?” But whatever. Now back to my question……
Ok, I’m wrong, I admit it. And i’m sorry for calling whats his name an idiot. I also apologize for not researching the word more. I should know better, My bad. If I went through correcting everyone’s spelling and grammer I’d be posting comments ALL day. I am here to answer/ask wedding related questions. Not play “editor”.
Ok, I’m wrong, I admit it. And i’m sorry for calling whats his name an idiot. I also apologize for not researching the word more. I should know better, My bad. If I went through correcting everyone’s spelling and grammer I’d be posting comments ALL day. I am here to answer/ask wedding related questions. Not play “editor”.
But he didn’t answer my question, he just corrected me. That doesn’t take much time at all.

{ 9 comments… read them below or add one }

Warren G May 12, 2012 at 5:38 am

How bout you forgot the plans you have and head out to vegas.. Vegas has a ton of choices of chapels and most are all inclusive and our wedding package started at like 5500! Or you can do what my sister did and got married in a city park that way you can just get the main meal catered, and you can make your own apps. Plus you can bring your kegs!


Miss now Mrs. May 12, 2012 at 5:39 am

I think 3 choices is good. I would skip the deviled eggs (although I LOVE them!) because they don’t really seem like an appetizer to me. Your other choices look great!


af May 12, 2012 at 6:23 am

A lot of places require a licensed caterer. In fact, some venues have preferred caterers, and they will not allow anyone else to do it.

It’s for insurance purposes and professionalism purposes. A non-caterer might not dispose of the trash properly, or they might not know how long is too long to leave food sitting out safely. People are sue happy these days. If someone accidentally chokes on one of your crackers they might try to sue the venue for not protecting them!

I’m not saying your friends/family are like that, but the venue needs to look out for their best interest.

You really only need 3 or 4 choices for hoursderves. And yes they are ridiculously expensive. A lot of people just do cheese, fruit, and crackers while skipping the more expensive hoursderves.

You could maybe do it al la carte and just order a tray of chicken fingers, a tray of meatballs, and a couple more trays. Then when they are gone, they are gone. They might run you 100-200 a tray.


Mom3Boys May 12, 2012 at 6:23 am

horderves is not found at – who’s the idiot now? just serve hot dogs and be done with it that should be classy enough, yathink? have a guest bring a keg and share

calling someone an idiot who took the time to answer YOUR question (so they corrected you? big deal) is uncalled for, rude and unproductive. Not to mention ungrateful. yes, my answer is that too but how does it feel? Don’t ask for help if you are going to insult people who get involved.


PugMom May 12, 2012 at 7:10 am

I know most of the wedding packages I looked at included choice of 4, so I’m guessing that’s the norm. However, I think 3 choices are sufficient if on a budget. I would pick (and this is totally my opinion) the cheese and cracker tray, salsa and chips, hot artichike dip and swedish meatballs (2 cold and 2 hot). I was just at a party this weekend and one of the appetizers was the artichoke dip and it was a rave hit.


Angelina May 12, 2012 at 8:06 am

Cheese and crackers platter sounds good.

How about a veggie platter and also a fruit platter? I also like the meatballs idea.

Yes, catering is often the most expensive part of the wedding. We went all out on the food and spent close to $9,000 just on that – but we wanted our guests to eat heartily and be merry and it worked out great.

Reply May 12, 2012 at 8:08 am

Google doesn’t say “Did you mean Hors ‘doeuvres?” because many people use your spelling to ask others how to actually spell the word. Spelling something phonetically doesn’t mean it’s correct. The only other correct spelling is Hors d’œuvre, which is the French spelling. People are bringing it up because you called someone an idiot over this when you’re wrong.

That said, we’re having either two or three Hors ‘doeuvres – probably cheese and crackers, angus steak and blue cheese kabobs, and an as-yet-not-decided-on option for the vegetarians. We’re not having a full reception, though, only a cocktail hour before heading out to a bar, so your mileage may vary.


Cupcake's Princess May 12, 2012 at 8:45 am

If you’re also serving dinner, three different kinds of hors d’oeuvres is usually sufficient, and they needn’t be substantial foods like chicken wings; you can do cheese and crackers, stuffed mushrooms, etc. Be sure to include one that is vegetarian. If you’re not serving dinner, then you need at least five different kinds (six or seven would be better), and they should be more substantial (so-called “heavy” hors d’oeuvres, such as chicken wings, full-sized shrimp, etc.). In this case, include at least two vegetarian options.


.:*Katie*:. May 12, 2012 at 9:17 am

Just a side not, who cares if you spelled the friggin word wrong? As long as the people know what your trying to say who gives a crap.

On a lighter note:

for my cocktail hour, we are having heavy hors doeuvres like meat and cheese trays, shrimp cocktail, oysters,tea sandwiches, mini quiches, and a wonton wrapper with chicken and other spices and veggies.( not sure what it’s called)


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