How rude is this for a wedding?

by DIY wedding planner on December 11, 2012

My fiancee’s brother is having his wedding this weekend and invited his mother, whom his grandmother and my fiancee are very indifferent to. Now she plans to invite her preacher to the wedding and bring her husband, who many people are indifferent to. Now, is it just me or shouldn’t the bride and groom be able to invite who they want and any additional people be cleared though them first. He didn’t say that she could bring guests.
She has no money in it, the bride and groom are paying for it.

{ 8 comments… read them below or add one }

chanel December 11, 2012 at 5:31 am

what the hell, thats tottaly wrong! u should say smething! its ur wedding…ur rules! FTW!


JonV December 11, 2012 at 5:40 am

If the bride and groom are paying for the whole thing themselves, then technically you’re right. But anyone who is important to the groom’s mother should be given special consideration. And, of course, it’s no one’s problem but the bride and groom’s.


Shannon December 11, 2012 at 6:03 am

Bride and groom have the final say. Do you have security? You need to provide them with the invite list and then provide them with the official HELL NO! list so they can’t be let in. It’s your big day – don’t let them ruin it


You People Bring Matches For Mikey? December 11, 2012 at 6:20 am

Yes, the bride and groom should absolutely have final say over who is invited to their wedding and whether extra guests are allowed to come or not.


Tahloo December 11, 2012 at 7:00 am

The man invited his Mother. I am guessing that the Mother’s husband was a “plus-one”. The Preacher thing: the man’s Mother should ask the bride & groom for their approval.
When it comes to planning YOUR wedding you will have your say and way. This is your future brother-in-law’s day. He is, apparently, not “indifferent to” his own Mother.


Ruthie December 11, 2012 at 7:32 am

if someone is married it’s rude to invite them but not their spouse. Her husband should have been invited when she was, beyond that though it is up to the couple.


Chakra December 11, 2012 at 8:20 am

It’s very rude of her. It’s not in her position to invite anybody, unless she ask the bride and groom personally. And worse, it’s the person nobody likes. Sounds like she’s trying to sabotage the wedding.


rebekah December 11, 2012 at 8:58 am

Yes, she should have to clear that through the hosts. Usually, invitations have an RSVP card guests send back with an option to bring a guest sometimes. Sometimes the option is not available to bring a guest. That way it’s not a free for all, I mean, it’s not like a backyard kegger, and you get to bring 4 of your friends. It would be completely reasonable to tell her, no, you may not bring a 3rd guest. Furthermore, who brings their own minister to events? Sounds like she’s going to be a drama queen. I would hire a bouncer to kick her a$$ out if she makes one wrong move, and ruins their special day. Hahahaha


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