If you are paying for you own wedding do you still word the invites the same?

by DIY wedding planner on December 11, 2011

You know how every invitation sample you see words it like the parents of the bride request your presence as their daughter blah blah blah,, but if you are paying for the whole thing yourself do you still word it that way or some other way?

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La Vie Boheme December 11, 2011 at 7:17 pm

We just had our names requesting the honor of our guests presence. We were throwing the event..not our parents.


Halo Mom December 11, 2011 at 7:39 pm

You could, if you like do the parents

Or you could just do your names
Bride First middle last
Groom first middle last
request your presence to their marriage

Both are fine and you could choice either
It’s really up to you


cath December 11, 2011 at 8:02 pm

the invite will come from you and your fiance….because you are the ones paying! you get invite rights!!!


Kimberly December 11, 2011 at 8:46 pm

My fiance and I are wording it as us inviting the guest. We are the ones paying for the whole thing so therefore we think it should be worded like this. Its really up to you tho. I know people who have recently got married and left the invitations sounding like the parents of the bride talking.


nova_queen_28 December 11, 2011 at 8:48 pm

This site can help you out with how to word it since you are paying/hosting yourselves …

The only thing we did was note our parents after our names, like:

In the presence of their loved ones
they will exchange vows of marriage
and pledge to live all their tomorrows
together in Christ’s love
Daughter of George and Mary Smith
Son of John and Sally Jones
invite you to share in this celebration of love
on DAY


dreamingaboutyouto December 11, 2011 at 9:12 pm

it is completely up to the two of you but usually if you are paying only your names are the only ones that need to be on the invites.


Kelly December 11, 2011 at 9:16 pm

Traditionally, the invitation is sent by the people hosting (paying for the wedding) which by “tradition” is the brides parents, if the grooms parents are paying for it I have seen invites issued by them. If you are paying for your own wedding then you are the host and you can issue the invitation from yourself.

However just because you’re paying for it doesn’t mean you have to issue the invite from yourself. My fiance and I are paying for our wedding (as we should) we are still issuing the invitation from our parents.

If you still want your parents names on it there is no problem with it. However, if you put your parents on it, you should also put the parents of the groom. It may cause some hard feelings if you don’t.


Lydia December 11, 2011 at 9:29 pm

We paid for our wedding, but did our invitation similar to Nova Queen’s – no matter who is paying for the wedding, you should use the parents’ names out of respect, and so your guests will know which families you come from.

Helen Ann,
daughter of Frank and Susan Williams,
Mark George,
son of Matthew and Lisa Smith,
request the honour of your presence….

SO you two as a couple are doing the inviting, but are still including the names of parents.


lalala December 11, 2011 at 9:53 pm

Who is paying has nothing to do with the invitation. The names on the invitation indicate who is hosting the wedding. Hosting doesn’t always equal paying.

Basically you can word it any way you want. I think it’s nice to include the parents somehow. We had “Along with their parents” on our invitations.


truefirstedition December 11, 2011 at 10:21 pm

I would do it this way:

Sarah Elizabeth Smith
and John Adam Jones
together with their parents
Samuel and Sally Smith
and Robert and Rhoda Jones
invite you to celebrate their marriage
date time blah blah blah

You could leave the actual parents’ names off if you wanted, but I think it’s nice to acknowledge them, regardless of who is paying.


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