If you go to a DIY wedding wedding did it make you feel totally overwhelmed? Or is it just me?

by DIY wedding planner on January 12, 2012

I’m just trying to figure this all out and I’m feeling kind of scared after I saw all of that stuff- it just looks really expensive on their front pages like Bride and Martha and then the blogs are hard to find stuff on. Is it just me feeling overwhelmed? Or are they really a little overwhelming? I really don’t want to bother my fiance with it this early but I don’t know how to feel about it all I definitely can’t afford to hire people to style my wedding!

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Blunt January 12, 2012 at 4:58 am

It IS overwhelming. All the planning and everything… and if you tack on DIY then it gets far more stressful. My advice is to SIMPLIFY and only do what you can do on your own.

I did not have any time to DIY, so I hire people to do that for me. I only chose from what they wrere showing me, although I have done alot of reseach online and on magazines and I knew what I wanted to do.

One thing. Do not attempt to cater yourself, bake the cake and decorate yourself. Enlist the help of your family members and bridal party…you cannot do this alone. One thing, definitely pay for catering and cake.

Good luck


Libby January 12, 2012 at 5:41 am

It can definitely feel daunting. Our wedding was small (less than 60 guests) and I was overwhelmed with how many stupid little things that had to be done! I wasn’t even working at the time because I was moving.

My advice is that you start on the three biggest things that mean the most to you… for me, it was everyone’s clothes (including mine), the menu, and the entertainment. Get those things done, then write down other things that come up as you think of them. But don’t think about them until you have time. Once you have the big stuff done, you’ll be amazed at how fast all the little stuff gets ticked off your list!


brat_a_la_mode January 12, 2012 at 5:46 am

I had a DIY wedding, but then again I have also worked in event planning for the last 15 years :/

It takes a lot of work and creativity, it will definitely stress you out. But the upside is that your wedding will reflect more of you as a person, and not the tastes of bridal magazines or wedding planners.

Early on, make a list of things you ‘must have’, ‘want’ and can ‘live without’. This was the only thing that kept me grounded…and by doing that I was able to focus on getting everything I wanted and nothing I didnt care about. Because believe me, stuff starts coming flying at you out of the woodwork (grooms cake, seat card holders, fancy cake cutter set, pillow for the rings, baskets for the flower girls…) and you dont want to blow your budget on a ‘really nice’ guest book and realize that means you have to cut out something you really wanted.

Its a lot more work, but I think in the end its worth it! My wedding turned out just the way I wanted and there is no reason why money should keep you from having yours the way you want it.
Good luck!


Rachel January 12, 2012 at 6:08 am

AHHH!!! let me tell you, weddings are very overwhelming. im getting married in december and my mother and i are doing the whole thing. it really does take a lot out of you, and if you think that you have to spend a lot of money your wrong. my wedding budget is only $2,000 and we have a DJ an awesome reception hall, and we are having fake flowers. real flowers are nice but when it comes to $$ fake flowers are the best way to go. the best thing to do is have friends that can help you, my aunt is cookin our food (brisket, potatoes, baked beans) we are not having alchol because its so expensive and you have to have a license. also wedding pictures dont have to be outrageous, find a friend who might have some experience.
hope this helps :)


hollywoodmelody January 12, 2012 at 6:43 am

You can afford a partial planner or day of planner as long as you are realistic with your budget. You are overwhelmed with emotion so just take a deep breath and relax. Yes, do it yourself brides work over 250 hours on their wedding and when it comes to the day of you just want things to go smoothly. How does that happen? Well, the planner that you hire will or should save you money all the way through the planning process. If you hire a day of coordinator, he/she will take care of all the vendors, setup/breakdown, time line for ceremony, reception, get the bridal party down the aisle on time, and everything else imaginable. It does pay to hire a planner to guide you through the process or just for the day of your dreams.


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