Including the kids without embarrassing them!?

by DIY wedding planner on April 27, 2012

I want to include my kids in my wedding…I have 3 boys, they will be, 6,7,and a lil over 1 at the time of wedding. My 7 year old say he doesn’t want to walk down the isle or anything…my original plan was to have all 3 of them walk me down the isle and instead of a flower girl, do something that involves the boys walking down the isle…We are having a camo/hunting/outdoorsy wedding (not tacky though, very elegant but casual at the same time). If anyone has any ideas to help me please let me know…Also need help with some CHEAP and maybe homemade centerpieces and decor for wedding, there are no vendors, everything is DIY! I NEED HELP! I feel like I am way over my head and not sure how to scoop myself out!

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mastarocka April 27, 2012 at 5:21 am

not much you can do if they dont want to be in it. i dont blame them. i wouldnt want to be in a camo based wedding


Messykatt April 27, 2012 at 5:59 am

I’d try one more stab at getting the 7 year old to want to do this but don’t tell him it’s “instead of a flower girl”. That would send him running. Explain what a grown up honor it is to give a bride away, and it’s a big deal that you want him and his brother to do this, because it’s usually an adult. See how he responds to that. I’d leave the one year old out of it completely.


Online by Dezign April 27, 2012 at 6:58 am

For your centerpieces, have fireflies in a mason jar. Take large mason jars and pick-up some battery operated white christmas lights like the enclosed link:
Then surround the jar with different colored rocks, tree branches and/or cat tails.

As for your children, if they don’t feel comfortable being a part of the wedding, I don’t think I would force the issue. Let them just sit back and enjoy the wedding day.

All the Best,

Weddings by Dezign


Gillian April 27, 2012 at 7:08 am

Possible ways to include your boys:

-walk you down the aisle, like you said
-ring bearer
-announce the bride is coming (walk down the aisle before you and announce your arrival)
-they can hand out programs or favors
-they can be the guest book attendant
-let them do the decorating, since everything is DIY and then give them a special thank you either in the program or in a speech
-have the oldest one do a very simple reading to show how smart he is (he could read the most simplest of books like “Guess How Much I Love You” by Sam McBratney or a short quote about love or have him write something and practice it)

As for a centerpiece:
I would get a bunch of vases from the dollar store and some silk (fake) flowers. I would make the flowers into a pretty arrangement and then tie a camo ribbon around it. That would tie in your camo theme and still be tasteful.

Keep your bridesmaids simple. Use the same idea as the centerpieces for them. Have them wear a brown or green dress that is the same shade as in the camo you have chosen. They can carry a simple bouquet (I would use the silk flowers again here) tied with the camo ribbon.

My best advice? Keep the camo to the accents and use the colors of the camo as more of an overall theme (like a nice brown or green). This will keep everything looking gorgeous!


deux April 27, 2012 at 7:53 am

You could have your kids come up at some point in the ceremony, and give them rings. It would symbolize that you are ALL becoming a family. I knew a couple who did that, and the kids were really excited about it.
You could do simple silk flower arrangements.


Perse April 27, 2012 at 8:11 am

They might prefer walking down the aisle alone. Perhaps they might like to stand up with your future husband? Or you could just give them front-row seats.


seamstress April 27, 2012 at 8:36 am

If you have a sense of humor, you could give bb guns (unloaded) to your two eldest boys and have them stand by the alter with the groom, making sure he does not get away!! A 2010 version of the “shotgun wedding??”

No? Okay, Okay. How about have your 7 year old son give out programs at the ceremony or stand by to prompt people to sign your wedding book?? Perhaps your younger son can be the ring bearer. A one year olds job at a wedding is to fuss and maybe cry because I can think of nothing he can add to your wedding, sorry.


Cat Lover April 27, 2012 at 9:23 am

Sorry, but no camo/hunting wedding could possibly be elegant.


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