Is it considered rude if you do not have wedding favors? If so, what are some cheap DIY ideas? Thank you!?

by DIY wedding planner on December 8, 2011


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tee_girl December 8, 2011 at 11:40 pm

i just bought som tulle fabric , cut them into squares , added some candy and tied them with ribbon….cheap but nice.

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diva_500 December 8, 2011 at 11:50 pm

I don’t know if it’s considered rude, but I think it’s a nice touch to give everyone something.

I made chocolates.

It didn’t cost much and was a nice personal touch. Everyone left know I had MADE the wedding favors.

I went to a local confectionary shop, picked out the mold I wanted and bought about 50 pounds of chocolate.

I made white chocoate bars that read: “The Two Shall Become One”

Then I wrapped them in clear cellophane and tied them with a ribbon which matched my wedding colors.

I received A LOT of compliments on them.

I wish you the best!

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gileswench December 9, 2011 at 12:22 am

Wedding favors are one of those things that you can cut with impunity. Most people won’t even notice you didn’t have them, and half the people who notice will be relieved not to have to figure out what to do with another plastic dove or bag of Jordan almonds.

If you’re tight on funds, skip the favors and spend the money on something that your and your guests will care about more.

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octoberbride December 9, 2011 at 12:24 am

Nope it is not required to have them. Most of the time you’ll just end up w having a bunch left over that you won’t know what to do w them. Ppl won’t notice, what you can do is have MM’s w your wedding colors in bowls on the table, or those after dinner mints just as munchies for ppl.

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gumpster17 December 9, 2011 at 1:22 am

We are getting married in October and money is tight………Instead of favors, we are making a split donation for care baskets for our troops (f/h was in the Navy) and the American Cancer Society. The guests don’t need to know how much the donation is and you can make bookmarks/ placecards with ribbon to let them know of the donation in lieu of favors.

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mumof2 December 9, 2011 at 2:05 am

What about lottery tickets wrapped in ribbon? Or just a little verse saying how much you appreciate all guests for attending and sharing your special day, and that you have chosen a charity ( such as cancer research) to donate money to. Or buy a charity pin/badge and use them as your favors? Hope this helps and you both have a fab day.

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kateqd30 December 9, 2011 at 2:59 am

Not at all. Favors arent a requirement, they are a nice touch, but I dont know anyone who would say “Did you see MAry didnt give out a favor, how low-class” and I have a very snobby family. Forego them and have a great wedding!

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bubbles December 9, 2011 at 3:44 am

Not rude but it’s sometimes nice and allows you to add your special touch to the wedding.

We are doing candles I got them from eBay for $1.25 a pieces and they are two pairs in a little bag and the lady did the hang tags included in that price.

If you can’t afford them then skip them.

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Amy P December 9, 2011 at 4:40 am

I don’t know if it’s necessarily rude, but it’s a nice thing to do.

You could do something like candies wrapped in tulle tied with a little bow that matches your colors. That would be pretty inexpensive- you could pick your and your fiance’s favorite candy or a candy that comes in a color that matches your wedding.

I was at a wedding a few months ago and they had a wide ribbon thing printed with a little saying about love/marriage and all their wedding info (names dates etc) You could do something like that- print a nice poem on it and they can use it as a bookmark.

Or look into The Oriental Trading Company- they have tons of stuff you can buy in bulk. I think the nice clear glass votive holders would be a nice touch- you can even order them with little clear stickers that you can personalize- a friend of ours did that and they were really nice for the price. She included a tea light (those are super cheap!) and she had the personalized sticker things and she had wrapped each one in tulle and tied w/ a ribbon.

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d December 9, 2011 at 5:14 am

how about just donating some money to a local charity or something and just frame a sign that says “in lieu of a favor mr. and mrs. ——- have decided to make a donation to……….

you could give 25 dollars if you want. charities are happy to get any donations.

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greeneyes_bjb December 9, 2011 at 6:13 am

No, it’s not considered rude. A good, cheap alternative, is to scatter some type of candy or cookies on the tables and/or put candy in bowls on the tables. That way, guests can help themselves, but no one’s stuck with a favor they don’t want. OR, make a donation (however much you can afford) to your favorite charity, and then put a pretty card on the tables that says “Thank you for joining us for our wedding day. A donation has been made in your honor to (name of charity)” and maybe even include some information on the charity. The money will go to better use if sent to a nonprofit than in giving your guests candles or something.

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Avis B December 9, 2011 at 6:47 am

Wedding favors only work in two categories . .

Something edible, preferably homemade (like cookies)

Something useful (like a bud vase or a candlestick or a candy dish)

Wedding guests do not like “cute, cheap favors.” They are either left on the reception dinner table or thrown away when the people get home. There are dumpsters filled with homemade candles and Bride and Groom bookmarkers.

Donate $10 or $20 to your favorite charity and then put that information in a frame and then put that frame on your gift table or guest book table. You do not have to put how much you donated, just that you made a donation “in lieu of wedding favors.”

And if you still prefer putting “something” on the reception tables buy a couple of bags of chocolate kisses or jelly beans and put them in a candy dish.

Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant

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CBT Princess December 9, 2011 at 7:08 am

you do NOT need favors. No one needs another knick knack for the junk drawer! Toss out some Hershy kisses or jordan almonds if you want in a color that goes with your wedding colors & call it done.

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ChicagoGirl December 9, 2011 at 7:56 am

I would just get cake slice boxes and give it to guest to take home since no one really eats the cake there anyways. A couple of friends did that, and I can say that the cake was eaten on the way home from the reception in the car :)

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Jessie C December 9, 2011 at 8:41 am

we went on ebay and found some little wallet sized picture frames and used them for our seat markers on the tables. also, if you’re having someone make a cake, see if they know how to make mints too. Have them make something that goes along with the theme of your wedding and put them in little baskets with a tag on the handle with your names & a special saying.

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melouofs December 9, 2011 at 8:48 am

I have a personal thing against favors. The bride thinks the guests will feel more appreciated if they get one, but mostly, they think, what am I going to do with 1 single wine glass that says, Anna and Ted, September 12, 2007…& my cousin made lovely chocolates, 90% of which were left on the table at the end of it all….save your money and have that muich more to spend of a great reception. Your guests will leave with a wonderful memory of a fun evening, and great experiences are never out of favor!

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movievixin December 9, 2011 at 9:11 am

If you don not want to do any then don’t. Most people will not even bother to take them home. I have heard horror story’s about favors. But if you want to do some then here are a few ideals.
Spoons with kisses on them and a little card with a cute saying on it .wrapped in that tulling. Plastic spoons dipped in melted chocolate. small boxes with m&m in it. candy bars with special lables like ( Sally & Joe october 22′ 2000) this can be done with a computer printer a glue stick and candy bars. Also can be done with the small bars. If it is a summer wedding try a pack of seeds in a hand made pouch and closed with ribbon.

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secret_oktober_girl December 9, 2011 at 9:39 am

Favors are most deffintely NOT a “must have/do”..in fact this is a possible HUGE area of wasted funds. I’ve not been to a wedding YET in which all favors were appreciated &/or taken home.

I’m having a fall wedding this year and rather than “individual” favors, this is what I’m doing:
I’m purchasing Hershy Kisses that will come out in the fall wrapped in “seasonal” fall colors….
I’ve ordered these:
http://www.orientaltrading.com/application?namespace=browse&origin=searchMain.jsp&event=link.itemDetails&demandPrefix=12&sku=47/507&mode=Searching&erec=1&D=wedding%2Bstickers&Ntt=wedding%2Bstickers&Ntk=all&Dx=mode%252bmatchallpartial&Ntx=mode%252bmatchallpartial&N=0&sd=MINI+WEDDING+STICKERS
to place on them.
(they have other stickers for diff candy, just look around while you’re there-they have some great stuff!)
I’m going to place a bowl of each on every table along w/a table-tent card that I’m going to print up with a personal message/hand-signed by my fiance and I to thank them for coming and sharing our day.

That way they’re still getting a personalized “thank you” goody but without the expense and possible waste.

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jeannielunchbox December 9, 2011 at 10:38 am

I am not having wedding favors. Whether someone thinks that’s rude or not, I don’t know, but I bet people won’t even notice. I am feeding them dinner and having an open bar, I think they’ll be happy with that!

They are a waste of money and resources. How many favors have you got that you were like, “wow this is so sweet, i’m going to cherish it for ever.”

I am thinking about sending each guest a picture of them with the happy couple, if there is one, or just a wedding picture, with their thank you notes.

The best favor that I ever got was a small bottle of wine. But that was probably expensive.

If you must have favors, go with edible ones. Hershey kisses wrapped in tulle, or andes candies (that was my other idea for ours). Or you can get something like a wine stopper and give it to each couple or family, instead of each person, which will cut your costs in half.

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Wicked Bride December 9, 2011 at 11:20 am

lottery tickets!

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Riviera_ December 9, 2011 at 11:25 am

Considering I got married over 27 years ago, the whole concept of giving wedding favors was a surprise to me. I can’t ever remember ever receiving a wedding favor, but I also haven’t been to a wedding in probably 15+ years.

Waaaay back in my day 1 or 2 (depending on table shape and size) lucky people got to take home the table decoration that adorned their table. The only other thing that was on the table (and this was VERY big) were matchbooks that were printed up in wedding theme with names & the date. I suppose with the nation-wide NO SMOKING LAWS, matchbooks really wouldn’t be a thing couples would have at their wedding receptions…although a lot of people do collect matchbooks.

Anyway, I’ve researched the whole wedding favor thing and found it quite interesting. It’s been done for centuries and
were commonly given amongst European aristocrats and were constructed of crystal, precious stones and porcelain. The wedding favors in the trinket boxes were sugar cubes and other delicate confections that represented WEALTH and ROYALTY. Sugar was expensive and highly valued by the wealthy during this time period. (Which to me is actually kind of arrogant and I find it as bragging)

As sugar decreased in price, those of lesser means were able to incorporate the tradition of giving favors to wedding guests as well.

In recent times, favors have taken on many different forms and are made of various materials. Although sweet confections or five sugared almonds, given to represent HEALTH, HAPPINESS, WEALTH, FERTILITY and LONG LIFE for the newly married couple, are still used as gifts in bomboniere boxes, today, the favors are more diverse such as dried flowers, candles, and individually wrapped chocolates. Wedding favors are only limited by your imagination & budget. There is now the option to choose gifts based on the theme of your wedding or none at all.

Honestly? I could care less about a wedding favor. I find them a waste of money and believe most people feel the same way I do. I usually take home a wedding napkin with the bride & groom’s name & wedding date as a momento from the wedding. I mean let’s face it, after about a month or so most people are going to wonder what in the heck to do with the favor you’ve spent money on and a lot will throw them away. I would strongly suggest skipping the wedding favors. It’s YOUR day so use the money on something more important to you…besides, you’ll be sending out “thank you” cards, that’s good enough.

Congratulations and Best Wishes.

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sniffydogs December 9, 2011 at 11:47 am

Not at all. In fact I think it’s better if you don’t.

Pirated CDs, cheap items from the dollar store, flavored condoms from Planned Parenthood, shot glasses……..

Donations to highly political organizations.

No matter how “special” someone thinks they are, they are going to be left. It’s a waste of your precious time and valuable resources.

Let your guests take good memories of the day home.

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Carly P December 9, 2011 at 12:18 pm

We made a donation to St Judes Children’s Hospital. They send a nice bookmark and donation envelopes to have at the wedding. Who keeps favors from weddings anyway? They stay in a drawer until someone gets tired of them and throws them away! Good luck!!

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