Ladies how many of you had people offer to help you with things…?

by DIY wedding planner on September 30, 2012

I have qutie a few DIY projects (centerpices, favors, baskets, making fans for guest) you know all those cute and special project to make my wedding diffrerent! Have had plenty of people offer to help! Should I call those who have offered to help me put things togather, and ask them to come over, or should I wait till they offer again?

Some project I dont want help with so I have been doing them little by little myself! However I have quite a few I will need help with!

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xoxo September 30, 2012 at 5:34 am

wait until they offer again, you don’t want to seem naggy! they might’ve not meant it when they offered the first time…..


Dr. Q September 30, 2012 at 5:40 am

I didn’t have a lot of people ask me that, or I didn’t get back to some, and ended up doing way toooo much on my own. Even on the wedding day, i was running around crazy and was late coming out. I would suggest thinking of a way they can help as soon as possible after they offer.


Greyhound Mama September 30, 2012 at 6:23 am

I see no problem with calling people and asking them if they are still willing to help. The worst that can happen is that they are busy, but you can deal with that.

I know that I’ve offered to help some friends out. I usually don’t offer again because I don’t want to appear like I’m imposing myself into their wedding plans.


always thinkin September 30, 2012 at 6:30 am

i find that people offer but i dont think many of them mean it!


rebleep7 September 30, 2012 at 7:18 am

Why not ask? They’ve offered their help! Take them up on it! Especially when needed.


?•?•Cassie•?•? September 30, 2012 at 8:11 am

I would invite them all over, tell everyone that you would appreciate their creativity and you should order in some dinner or have a party appetizers. You can play music and tell stories and it should be really fun. Phrase it as a wedding project party. People probably wouldn’t have offered unless they really wanted to, I enjoy doing stuff like that so I’m sure a lot of other people do. Don’t feel guilty about asking for help!


fizzygurrl1980 September 30, 2012 at 8:37 am

Wait until they offer again- if they do. One thing I hate is when people take advantage of my generosity. Just because they thought they’d pitch in and help you one day doesn’t make them your wedding coordinators for life! If the same people don’t offer to help again, other people will. And if not, you can always enlist the help of your bridesmaids, who sort of knew that’s what they were signing on for. And if THEY won’t help, well, then I guess your projects really WILL be DIY. : )


Heather B September 30, 2012 at 8:42 am

If they offered, they wanted to help you. You should call and just ask if they are still willing to help you out.


krissy7490 September 30, 2012 at 9:20 am

I’ve had many offers of help and I fully intend to take them up on their offers! I think you can usually tell the people who actaully mean it and those who are just trying to be polite!

Just call them up and ask if the offer for help still stands!


papafrita_picante September 30, 2012 at 9:27 am

It never hurts to ask.
I use this as a life motto.
You get alot out of life this way. Things you’d never know or have are gotten just by asking.


lunchbox September 30, 2012 at 9:52 am

Yeah I was a DIY bride too. I had a lot of offers when I first starting talking about it, then they dwindled. I ended up doing most of it myself since I live at least 4 hours from everyone in my wedding. People sometimes offer to be polite, but when it comes down to it, they have better things to do.


Erika M September 30, 2012 at 10:08 am

Last weekend I had an invitation party with about 10 of my friends. We had so much fun and they were all happy they could help. We put the invites together and addressed all the envelopes in calligraphy (which would have taken me a couple of weeks). We had food, watched movies and really enjoyed each other’s company. They have even offered to help me again with the programs because we had so much fun.


*Getting Married 6-15-08* September 30, 2012 at 11:07 am

call them up! say something along the lines of “you offered before but i’m not sure if your still able to…..i’d like to do ___________ on this day__________, can you help?”


diver deb September 30, 2012 at 12:01 pm

My next door neighbor and my youngest daughter are the only one to offer to help.I am the only one doing all the favors and decorations. But they have helped me at the reception site set it all up last weekend to see what we have to do….We needed more tables.So I am glad we went and layed it all out , I have a better idea of the arrangment. I feel overwhelmed and although they have offered to help. I don’t like to ask them to help out all the time, so I am just doing it all my self. I made up 50 cds myself full of caribbean and steel drums music. I was trying to take them to the Islands when they listen to it.


Angela O September 30, 2012 at 12:51 pm

Everyone has offered!! I am kind of a control freak and want to do it myself, but if I find myself running short on time, I will have no problem calling them – if they didn’t want to help they wouldn’t have offered! And most who have offered are women and have been through the stress of planning a wedding themselves and know what it’s like.


Cher September 30, 2012 at 1:00 pm

They shouldn’t have to ask twice, once is enough!


Kate S September 30, 2012 at 1:13 pm

We has a flower arranging party. We all got together at my mom’s had coffee, and peach cobbler and helped make the pew flowers. It was a lot of help. It sounds like you need to learn to delegate stuff to other people to help take the stress off yourself.


Lydia September 30, 2012 at 1:15 pm

Just call and ask! Some people offer just to be polite, but many really DO want to help out, in whatever way they can!


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