Trying to plan a wedding for a year now and haven’t got anywhere PLEASE help?

by DIY wedding planner on July 30, 2012

Heres the scoop, my fiance and I have been planning for a while now. We had planned on getting married this september 5th, we didn’t have anything booked but we already had our rings and my dress. Our plans changed when we decided to buy a house instead. We have a 10 month old daughter so we thought a house was a better idea than spending our money on a wedding.
Now we dont know what we’re going to do. We really want to get married but simply can’t afford a big wedding. I have a really big family so a small wedding wouldn’t work, 120 guest min. My fiance is also in the military and is going away in january for a few months, so we would like to be married before then. We also want to try for a second child within the next year and would like to be married by then.

We have thought of going to the courthouse before he goes away and then having a big party next summer in his parents backyard. Another option is we wait until next summer and do it all in his parents backyard. Or rent cheap little hall sometime in November-december and do it diy.

Sorry this is so long I am just desperate for advice. So I guess my question is what would you do? Please help us. Thanks

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kittycat July 30, 2012 at 8:40 pm

Do the courthouse…wear your dress. Have the big party. You did the best thing investing in a house. Kudos to you!!


Alexa<3 July 30, 2012 at 9:31 pm

I think the idea of going to the courthouse would work best. you can save your money for the reception part for next year and have exactly what you want. even just going to the courthouse and having the actual ceremony (you already have your dress don;t want to waste that) next year wouldn’t be bad either. Good luck on everything!!


elizabeth July 30, 2012 at 10:21 pm

If you can’t do a small wedding I would say just go ahead and wait until next summer. No need to rush things if you can’t have the wedding you want.

I would wait, but that is just me.

Best of luck!


Chrys July 30, 2012 at 11:06 pm

make all the family bring something and you have a backyard, pot luck wedding…it’s not formal, but you can invite everyone that way, get married and have it family style. It’s cheap and if everyone pitches in, you can make it wonderful. (make a list of everyone and their dishes, so you don’t have all of one thing…)
Cupcake trees are popular (cheap, and everyone gets one…) instead of a big expensive cake…decorations can be made of yard clippings OR ask/rent plants from a nursery (if you ask them nicely, and take back the plants unharmed, they might let you have them free…I’ve done it before.)


Jeanette July 30, 2012 at 11:44 pm

Don’t wait!! if his family is willing, throw a backyard wedding… we are having our wedding here at our home. Our guest list is 125 people ( approx. ) and we are doing it with a very tight budget… the first thing you have to do is choose a venue… once you have decided that, then draw you a layout of the property and start doodling decorations and coming up with ideas.. then head out to your local craft stores and be creative… i have an old plantation style house and have porch pillars to decorate.. i looked at garland that included my wedding flower ( daisy ) and to get enough to do one pillar it would cost $27 each… X’s 4 = $108.00. i found some beautiful ribbon, and some pedal only boxed daisies ( the kind you would throw at the bride and groom ) and i bought some yellow felt to do the yellow centers ( plus a hole punch ) and glue.. now i only have $4.90 in each pillar… a savings of $60.40. i am not crafty by no means… i just wandered up and down the isles and looked at tons of magazines… and i watch for sales!! every time i am at the dollar store, i look to see if they have anything i could use.. and they have from time to time… CHEAP!! also, simple white christmas lights to light up the trees and bushes goes a long way… and tulle… get lots of tulle!!!


No Name Brand July 31, 2012 at 12:14 am

I think it would seem nicer for you to do the wedding and reception in one day as apposed to going to the court house and having a party on his return.

I think even if money is tight, you can still make a really great day out of it.

If your like me, I feel weird asking people for things or help … like, it all just has to be done by myself. Since you have a large family; maybe you could ask for some help from both your parents in creating a nice buffet (you could all make it together the night before which would be kinda fun if both your families get along) … etc

I think the point I am trying to make is; maybe ask for a tiny little bit of help. I am sure your friends and family would be thrilled to help you!

I say; do the court house and a reception hall all in the one day.



Rebecca July 31, 2012 at 12:16 am

hey, my mum had this problem. she saved up £2500 – £3000 for her wedding. she got married in a registry office her photography was £500 and she had a meal were everyone paid for themselves. and she rented a small hall. her wedding dress and brides maid dress was £500 for them all and flowers were really cheap

if you can save up £3000 then i think that if you search around you can get good deals for less than 2000 if you have a dress already


jewel box July 31, 2012 at 12:25 am

if it were me i would do the courthouse and then have a big reception afterwords for all the family and friends…but it is your wedding, and if you dreamed off having your big day, then maybe either wait until next year or still do the courthouse one so its official then save up for your dream one..that way you still get your special day..buyin the house was a good move for your family..but your wedding is your thing and you deserve the one you always dreamed off!
congrats and good luck with the wedding and concieiving another child


:) July 31, 2012 at 1:21 am

Welcome to the ranks of military spouse! I am a Navy wife. I married my navy man 8 years ago, but my wedding day was a disaster (other people ruined my day). Personally, I would go ahead and get married where ever you are. Invite your immediate family only ie: mother, father, siblings. Then next summer have a HUGE party to celebrate your marriage.


BrownEyedGirl July 31, 2012 at 1:55 am

Have the wedding outside with J.P. Rent trellis and folding chairs and tables. Since it’s outside your colors can be green and white. Use greens and white flowers real or artificial which ever is less expensive. If it is an evening wedding the small white christmas lights around the trellis and bushes or trees is a very pretty effect. Table clothes can be bought at the dollar stores for cheap and napkins. I would say white table cloths and green accessories. Center pieces for tables can be made with clear glass candle holders green candles(don’t have to be scented)with some of the greens you use with your flowers. You don’t have to use real glass for drinks and plates. Depending on time and how well people can cook you can make your own food or cater it or a little of both. I would have wedding cake made and the decorations on it can be around the bottom greens and on the top small pieces of greens and your white flower. Set up tables so that people are seated and have an opening where you can walk down and to your groom and J.P. That way every body already has a seat you won’t have to rearrange chairs to the tables and everybody gets to see the beautiful bride walking down to her handsome groom. As far as music maybe you know someone that has something that can be used for the music to play for long periods of time without having to keep changing it. Well I hope this helped you and Good Luck with what already sounds like a great start God Bless you and your family. Please come back on and let us know how everything went.


Colleen July 31, 2012 at 2:41 am

When you want to have a great wedding, but you have to do it on a budget, you will want to make sure that you are finding ways to cut your expenses.  There are many different things that you will have to pay for and you will want to make sure that you are able to get all that you need with the money that you have set aside for your wedding.
The first thing that you will need to do is figure out what your budget is and what you need to do to stay on it. There are many ways that you can stray away from your budget and you will want to make sure that you stay on track and keep your budget in play.  Here are a few ideas when creating a wedding on a shoestring budget.


Jeff July 31, 2012 at 3:28 am

Let’s simplify. The key is you’d like to be married before January. So do that. Then, decide whether you want to have the celebration before he leaves or after. In my experience, couples who plan to have a celebration later often don’t… money gets tight, planning seems like a pain… besides, you’re already married and the urgency is gone. If you want to include family and friends, rent a small hall, do the DIY thing (which you’d be doing in the backyard as well), and get married before he leaves.

Something else to keep in mind: You can go to the courthouse, but if you want everyone to watch you get married, hire a civil celebrant (fancy word for justice of the peace) to come to the hall and perform the ceremony. For $50 you can get married in front of friends and family and have the reception too.

Since you want to be married by Jan, want to be married before you start on another child, want to have a party… that way you accomplish everything you want. And if you rent a hall in Nov or Dec, you should be able to negotiate on price.


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